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Source: AP Rogers & Cowan & Kiegal
Ladies, if I may; I would personally like to try in interject some "food for thought"! First, my opinions and experiences do not reflex upon this radio station that I work for. I am simply just sharing some thoughts that I see on a daily basis.
So lets begin: Fact: There are more women than men that populate the planet earth. Most women in the Tampa area really are compeating against the "Field" to find the BEST person to "complete" there lives, to succeed and be happy while we walk this earth. Bascially, most ladies are struggling to find a good man! So ladies, lets talk for a minute from a "Man's perspective" on what qualifies as a "Good man;" but more importantly are you IN FACT READY OR CAN RECOGNIZE A GOOD MAN.
So, lets examine the basic qualities of a "good man"
A) God Fearing B) Respectful C) a good job/good provider D) sexually compatible and E) Non-abusive AND faithful
Now ladies, alot of you are probably thinking to yourselves "I will take 3 out of those 5, and I'm good!" Well, if you "settle"---- then if it doesn't work out, don't be mad at men in general or bitter; be mad.... at yourself for settling for less: because you are lonely... impatient... or just plain trying to find somebody to take you.
Ladies, I am not here to preach; but know this if you don't get nothing else..... "You cannot ask of something that you aren't willing to give!" The statement truly rings BELLS and plays a major part of your quest. Don't ask of something if you aren't willing to GIVE! YOU want a man thats respectful, then YOU have to be respectful. You want a man that has a good job... then YOU have to have a job!!!! Ya want a man thats "Non-abusive"??? then take the time to find a man that doesn't have an abusive past!!!! And finally, if you want a man that is "above the rest" than find a "God fearing man;" but my sister, you definitely have to be a "God fearing" woman!
So now, you are probably reading this and you are saying to yourself "Well damn Bo, how do I do that???" Well, for starters; here's what you cannot do (in my opinion).
Ladies please understand
1) Getting know someone by "Just texting" because "I don't like talking on the phone"?!?!? Well, my sister.... good luck to you, because if that is your method or common response... you will make your path THAT much harder. You really have to ask questions, (now we know men will tell you anything) but TONES and inflection in voice gives you a clearer path to the truth. A man that is cool with "Just texting" can mislead you with words I.E. tell you anything you want to hear... be in a current relationship.... or even worse, can be a player who knows how to type a false sense of identity.
2) Presentation- Most women fall victim to the "Look" of success than the actual fact! Meaning, a nice car... a pocket full of money... Jordans/Jewelry doesn't mean that a person is successful or has a JOB! There are several upon several NO GOOD MEN, that drive nice cars, wear nice clothes and sport wads of cash.... but don't have good jobs. (Bonus) There are several athletes that have to support: mom, grandma, family members and their own lifestyle, which means they DO NOT have much more money for anything else; but because they are a pro-player; you think they have money and are the man for you...... WRONG! Do your research, watch 30/30 on ESPN, there is a GREAT documentary called "BROKE" to put you up on game about professional sports players.
3) Confidence! Most men that are abusive, possessive and have stalker qualities, really do lack confidence and self-esteem! By the way, for my "Thug luvin" ladies <grin> you really are asking for it. Most men that have issues: "Mamas boys" "Thug Mentality" "Why didn't you answer your phone and I am sitting outside your house and who are you texting or talking to on the phone" issues... Guess what.... they have CONFIDENCE and esteem issues!!!! The only way you can even see the "Signs" of these characteristics is by TALKING .... in DETAIL! Ask questions... several of them!!! HUNDREDS of them. A man, that gets upset after 20, and replies "Why you asking all these damn questions!?!? or you sure are nosey or I ain't sign up for all of this.... BINGO!!!!! You got it.... Low self esteem. A real man is not discouraged with answering or catering to your concerns!
Wrapping this up, these thoughts date back to your great great great grandmother, and none of this stuff is NEW! Stop falling for the "appearance" or the "look" and really talk and get to know a person; before you call yourself dating or in a relationship!
Lastly, GOOD SEX doesn't mean "GOOD RELATIONSHIP"! Lets be CLEAR on this. So are you REALLY looking for a "Good Man"?!?!? Ask yourself, are YOU even ready? Would you be able to recognize one if he was looking at you dead in your face!?!?!?!
Anyway, I am done and stepping down from the pulpit!
Feel free to ask any "common sense" questions.
Disclaimer- I am not a professional and I am not an expert to these are just my opinions; but damn! It really comes down to COMMON SENSE, make it more common